Updated: Feb 8, 2019
"I'm not trying to turn you out. I'm trying to turn you on to some game" — Ronnie,The Players Club
I met a woman, who was two years older than me that never had an orgasm.
Before you ask – no – she was not a virgin. In fact, she was the exact opposite of a virgin . What blew my mind was that she was having sex, but wasn’t getting anything out of it. My next question was, “then why are you having sex?” She kind of just looked at me and shrugged. That was it. The end of the conversation. The thing is, I knew exactly what the shrug meant: Guys like sex, that’s what we are supposed to do, right? Wrong. Sex is an exchange of power and enegry. I will be honest. I didn’t always think about it in those terms. I thought of sex like this: Boy meets girl, guy shows girl he likes her, mind-blowing sex, then happily ever after. That formula got me in a lot of trouble. I didn’t realize how much power I had –especially when I allow a man to enter me. Think about it. We’ve all looked down (or up) and saw the look of pure ecstasy on our guy face. That should prove, if there is a time to be assertive with a man it's when you are in the bed. There are many women I know who will say “Well, I don’t really know how to say that.”
It’s simple: you just say it!! If you like to cum from head but your partner only gets down there for a few licks – It’s your day to tell that man the truth. How else will a man find out how to please you? As much as we wish that men were mind readers, they aren’t. And if they bragged about “dropping good dick off” and left you underwhelmed, TELL HIM. How much do you want to bet, that he will do everything in his power to make sure you’re satisfied? If he doesn’t even TRY to make it better, leave him. THAT is what we call a fuck boy. We should use men’s competitive nature against them. Do you think the guy with the weak dick…knows he has a weak dick? Of course not – he thinks he’s the man. Now, it’s time to bring him to reality. What if you don’t want to hurt his feelings? Sis, when is the last time a man bit his tongue about something pertaining to you? If you can’t think of one time, get over it and
Whenever I hear someone talk about a guy who was horrible in bed, it literally breaks my heart, because a fellow sister hasn’t done her part. Sis, we must stick together. If you allow that weak dick nigga to go around thinking he got great dick, then you’re hurting your fellow sister. She’s going to encounter that man and then it’s going to be on her to end the cycle. How do you end the cycle? You don’t do it after you break up yelling “Your dick weak, nigga” as you walk out of his house, and you damn sure don’t do it in text. You must tell him right when it’s happening.
When your man is down there licking everything but the part you want licked, instead of pretend moaning, I want you to take control. Pull him up and kiss him how you want to be kissed down there. Do it slow, sexy and whisper ‘that’s how I want you to do it baby’. Or, pull him up and put him on his back. Then you suck his dick like you want to be ate. That means kissing it, licking it and sucking it slowly (or rough… this is your fantasy). Tease it. Until he’s pulling you up and throwing you on your back. What if y’all are having sex, and he’s hitting it too hard? Put your hand back there and tell him to slow it down. Not deep enough? Arch your back or open your legs wider. You don’t like it from the back but he does? Arching Sis, it’s all in the arch. The thing I want you to remember is that you are apart of this act.
Sex is best when you are having fun and both partners is trying get each other to the finish line. This isn’t the 1800s; you shouldn’t be putting up with mediocre dick. If you can’t do it for yourself, do it for your fellow sis and the culture. But whatever you do, TELL THE TRUTH!
Have you ever had to tell someone they had “weak dick”? I would love to hear your story!
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